Happy New Year 2017

Happy New Year from Eileen at Inner Healing Counselling It’s that time again where we reflect on the past year and plan for the New Year. Resolutions are made and broken, often within the first hour!! 2016 has been a very busy year for me. I have been working really hard in my practice and am learning so much in the process. I am now a registered business owner which is something I am really excited about. I have launched my online counselling service, learnt how to market my practice and have to say I am enjoying the new skills I am developing. I have become pretty apt at updating my website and am constantly learning which is great. I love being challenged and my practice is definitely keeping me on my toes. Challenging Times. Last year in my new year’s blog I wrote about [...]

By |2019-11-26T11:13:36+00:00December 13th, 2016|My Blog|0 Comments

Top Tips for Staying Sober at Christmas.

My Top Tips for Staying Sober at Christmas. Are you all set for Christmas? That’s a question we are often asked in the lead up to the festive season. Me, I’m a last minute.com kinda girl, rushing around getting presents, I just love the hustle and bustle of it all. I have a few little rituals I like to do every Christmas; decorations go up early in December (some might say too early!), shopping lists are completed, Christmas cakes are baked, and I always go to town for a few hours Christmas Eve to soak up the atmosphere. These are the things I like to do every year, it’s a habit at this stage. But what if you are in recovery and the old habits at Christmas no longer support you and your recovery. How can you take care of yourself over Christmas? It’s natural for family [...]

By |2019-11-26T11:11:46+00:00December 12th, 2016|Addiction, My Blog|0 Comments

Self-Care at Christmas, a Time to Celebrate, or not?

Picture this: Its Christmas time, decorations are up, the fire in on and Christmas songs are playing in the back ground. Sounds of laughter and children playing echo through the house. This scene or something like it is the dreamy scene we conjure up when we think of a happy Christmas. For many, Christmas is a time for the family to get together, Santa Clause, children, gift giving and receiving, movies and relaxation. However, for families of substance abusers, Christmas and the lead up to it, it’s a different story. The reality can be a time of great stress, worry and anguish. The thoughts of managing someone’s substance abuse issues during the Christmas period can be overwhelming. How can families better cope with this over the Christmas period? Expectations Within these families the need for open honest communication is really important so everyone knows where they [...]

By |2017-12-13T20:31:15+00:00November 28th, 2016|Addiction, Family Support, My Blog, Online Counselling|0 Comments

Complementary Therapies in Addiction Treatment: Equine Therapy & Yoga

Traditionally addiction treatment centres in Ireland are abstinence 12 step based, using a combination of educational talks, one to one counselling and group therapy where clients are admitted for a 4 to 6-week program. However, the increasing popularity and success of complementary therapies have meant that some treatment facilities now incorporate some of these therapies into their treatment program. So what complementary therapies are being used and how does it support client’s treatment and recovery? Complementary Therapies such as equine therapy and yoga are excellent practices when recovering from an addiction. Equine Therapy Equine therapy is an effective treatment for people struggling with issues like depression, anxiety, and drug and alcohol dependence. Horses are sensitive animals who are tuned into what people are projecting and feeling. The horse will react differently depending on how the person is projecting and the horse will react by either approaching [...]

By |2019-10-21T13:35:12+00:00November 2nd, 2016|My Blog|1 Comment

Have Or Are You Been Affected By A Parent’s Alcohol And Drug Use?

While no one sets out to become dependent on a substance or behaviour when living with a parent who has a substance abuse disorder childhood innocence is robbed. The most distressing part of addiction is the abuse and neglect of children. Parents are meant to nurture and protect their children, but if they are dependent on a substance this will take over leaving children feeling lonely and scared. When there is addiction in the home communication can be unclear and parent’s behaviour can be erratic varying from loving and caring to angry and withdrawn. This chaos and inconsistency leave children feeling anxious, angry, confused and insecure. Children love their parents and worry that they don’t love them enough to stop drinking or using drugs. They may not understand that their parent’s mood can be dependent on the volume of alcohol or drugs in their system. What is child abuse [...]

By |2019-10-21T13:37:12+00:00October 1st, 2016|My Blog|0 Comments

Guest Blog: Energy Emotional Freedom Techniques for Coping with Other People’s Addictions by Susan Browne

It’s not easy when you are impacted by someone else’s addiction problems. People end up feeling worried, frustrated, powerless, maybe even thoughts that they might be somehow to blame, and often angry and resentful. The feeling of treading on eggshells around a loved one’s overuse is also a common theme. It would be of great benefit for you to develop an awareness of your own stress levels, and take action to help yourself. EFT (stands for emotional freedom techniques - tapping on energy meridian end points to improve energy flow) has helped thousands of people to de-stress and get into a better mindset around hundreds of day-to-day and much more serious challenges that life can present. Living with an addict is no exception. What if you were to rate your stress levels around this just now, how stressed do you feel? Rate yourself on the SUE scale . [...]

By |2019-10-21T13:38:29+00:00September 20th, 2016|Addiction, My Blog|0 Comments

Recovery, how does family life change?

When living with the effects of someone’s addiction for so long patterns of behaviour and thinking become engraved in the psyche. When recovery comes into the home life can be much different than expected. Deciding to overcome an addiction it is a wonderful step which needs to be respected and supported. In recovery families need time and patience to adjust and heal, and this can sometimes be wrought with problems. Family support counselling, groups and programs often help family members deal with any issues or concerns they may have. Family Relationships in Recovery. When someone goes into recovery they can transform their personality and lifestyle. This, in turn, means family members may need to adjust to these changes. This can be difficult especially if family members are still hurt from the consequences of addiction. Addiction destroys everything and everyone in its path, so family members [...]

By |2019-10-21T13:40:54+00:00August 14th, 2016|Family Support, My Blog|0 Comments

What is Anxiety?

What is Anxiety? At some point in our lives we all feel some form of anxiety and this is a normal response to stressful situations. It is usual to feel anxious before exams, in awkward social situations or starting a new job. What makes one person anxious may not create the same reaction in another. While anxiety is an everyday feeling, it can become an issue when there is no apparent cause for that anxiety, or when it continues for more than a few of weeks. Anxiety can cause physical, behavioural and cognitive symptoms which can develop over time, and because we all experience anxiety at some stage, it can be hard to know how much is too much. It becomes an issue when the symptoms affect everyday living. It occurs when the person has a severe overreaction to a situation than what might be typically expected in [...]

By |2019-10-21T15:16:45+00:00June 28th, 2016|My Blog|0 Comments

Why I love offering an Online Counselling Service

When I started my counselling practice it was from a desire to support people. I know the affect anxiety, depression or addiction has on people and families and felt that my own experiences put me in a position to give that support. So when I launched my practice it was to provide one to one counselling to people in my local community in North Kerry. Sometimes when clients contacted me for an appointment and inquired where my practice was based I often got the following responses ‘Oh that’s too far for me to travel’ or ‘I can’t make an evening appointment’ or ‘I’ve no childcare at that time’. I felt really bad for these clients as I know the courage it requires to take that first step and contact a service looking for help. This prompted me to launch my online counselling service. Why? Firstly I believe that everyone [...]

By |2020-02-20T13:22:03+00:00April 14th, 2016|Addiction, Family Support, My Blog|1 Comment

Understanding Addiction: If you think you have a substance abuse issue

I really hope part 1 of this blog made your understanding of addiction clearer. In the second part of this blog I will briefly discuss what criteria needs to be present to diagnose an addiction and what steps you can take if you think you have developed one. The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual 5 is used by most clinicians and lists 11 criteria that need to be present for a substance abuse disorder/ addiction to be diagnosed: Taking the substance in larger amounts or for longer periods of time. Spending a lot of time getting, consuming, or recovering from use of the substance. Being unable to reduce or stop using the substance. Cravings, compulsions and urges to use the substance. Unable to do what you should at home, work, or school, because of substance use. Ongoing use, even though it is causing problems in relationships. Giving up recreational, social [...]

By |2019-10-21T15:20:24+00:00March 5th, 2016|Addiction|0 Comments

Understanding Addiction (Part 1) a brief explanation.

Before I began to write this blog I tried to remember how addiction was explained to me. I remember feeling extremely confused and very unsure about what I was hearing. At the time I didn’t understand all the different factors that had to be taken into account before someone was diagnosed with an addiction and I have to be honest I couldn’t understand why someone couldn’t just stop! I also didn’t consider or understand what it meant to be called ‘addict’ and why someone might be reluctant to accept the label! Of course after training as an addiction counsellor I now have a deeper understanding (Thank God!!). In my practice I have worked with people who are deep in addiction and have had the privilege of walking alongside them into recovery. What follows is a brief explanation of the different aspects of addiction which I hope leave you somewhat [...]

By |2019-10-21T15:23:17+00:00February 21st, 2016|Addiction|0 Comments

When There is Addiction in The Home: How to Cope

In Ireland the stigma of addiction often brings feelings of embarrassment, shame, guilt, anger, and hopelessness in an already highly stressed family unit. Because of this stigma, and in order to survive the chaos, families often adapt a ‘Don’t Talk, Trust, or Feel’ stance. Families may deny the real issue by calling a hangover the flu or excuse a drinking/ drug binge saying it is due to stress. Children will have trust issues due to repeatedly broken promises or be hyper vigilant waiting for the next crisis to occur. Because of this closed family system feelings get turned off, denied or buried because it becomes too painful or dangerous to talk about them. What is the person with the addiction problem doing in all this? They are also dealing with feelings of embarrassment, shame, guilt, anger, and hopelessness and coping the only way they know; by drinking, taking drugs, [...]

By |2019-10-21T15:24:59+00:00January 31st, 2016|Family Support|0 Comments

When There is Addiction in The Home: How the family is affected

“What is your understanding of addiction?” This is a question I often ask family members who have a loved one with an addiction problem. The answer I get back can vary but the essence of the response usually goes as follows: “An alcoholic is usually homeless and hides the bottle of drink in a brown paper bag” “An alcoholic drinks every day” “A drug addict is someone who injects heroin” When we have a family member who has an issue with alcohol, drugs, gambling etc. life can often be chaotic and uncertain. We’re often unsure of what is actually going on with the person but something doesn’t feel right, or it might be very clear to us due to our own family history. For someone who is addicted, their need of a drink, drug or bet is a matter of survival and the resulting behaviours are often unpredictable. So, [...]

By |2019-10-21T15:26:03+00:00January 15th, 2016|Family Support|0 Comments

Happy New Year 2016

Christmas and the New Year is often a time to reflect on the past year and plan for the coming one. How many of us have made New Year’s resolutions only to keep them for a few days. I am certainly guilty of that! The last few months have been really busy for me, I have been working on attracting new clients to my practice, updating my website and even started to write blogs! So how has this change happened so far? Well, I realised that I had let the ball drop in relation to my practice and decided to complete a client attraction course online. Attending online webinars has been completely new for me and I have learned so much both personally and professionally from them. What an amazing journey it’s been so far. Thank you Shelly Hutchinson and everyone at Client Nectar I have come to recognize that [...]

By |2017-12-13T20:31:16+00:00January 1st, 2016|My Blog|0 Comments
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